LIVE BY CHOICE NOT BY CHANCE!!!!

There’s a quiet kind of pain that doesn’t shout for attention. It lingers silently inside, slowly shifting the light in your life—softening your laughter, turning vibrant moments into distant echoes. What’s more heartbreaking is how often we accept this pain as normal. We call it loyalty, resilience, or love. But deep down, we start to realize: this isn’t true healing. It’s just surviving under a different name. And recognizing that truth changes everything.

1. Growth Means Leaving Behind What Once Felt Like Home

Not every place that feels familiar is a sanctuary. Not every person who once held you tenderly will embrace your growth. Yet, we cling to what’s known because walking away can feel like abandoning a part of ourselves — the version we fought so hard to become. Leaving feels like betrayal, even when staying slowly steals our peace. Society praises endurance as love, but peace has its own language—one that sometimes asks us to say goodbye.

2. Healing Is Uncomfortable—but It’s Real

Healing isn’t always about peace and sunshine. Sometimes it’s silence. Sometimes it’s stepping back from people you still care about. Sometimes it’s crying in the same spaces where you once laughed. Sometimes it’s the unsettling feeling of not recognizing the person you’re becoming—the one who no longer shrinks to fit.

The Bhagavad Gita reflects this honestly. Krishna doesn’t offer Arjuna comfort; he offers clarity. And clarity often demands letting go of what we’ve clung to for too long.

3. The Gita’s Lesson: Serve Your Purpose Without Seeking Approval

One of the Gita’s most profound teachings is to perform your duty without attachment to outcomes. This isn’t just philosophy; it’s practical advice. It means stop measuring your worth by who applauds you or who stays by your side. Stop waiting for permission to choose yourself. Don’t give away your peace to people who won’t even notice it’s missing.

True healing isn’t proving to others that you’re okay. It’s trusting your worth, regardless of who’s comfortable with your growth.

4. Detachment Isn’t Coldness — It’s Freedom

People often confuse detachment with indifference. But real detachment means feeling deeply without being controlled by those feelings. It’s caring without pleading. It’s loving without losing yourself. Krishna doesn’t ask Arjuna to stop feeling; he asks him to stop running—from truth, from responsibility, from himself.

Sometimes, we stay stuck because we hope others will change. But maybe the change we need is in ourselves. Maybe we must move forward not because they’re wrong, but because we’ve outgrown the version of us that could survive there.

5. Some Endings Are Sacred

We often think healing means fixing or forgiving the past. But sometimes healing means gently releasing it. It means honoring what it taught us, while acknowledging what it cost.

Not every ending is failure. Some are sacred—a vital closing chapter that makes space for who we are becoming.

@nandasagec manisha nandan